One’s philosophy is not best expressed in words; it is expressed in the choices one makes … and the choices we make are ultimately our responsibility.
–Eleanor Roosevelt

Facing tough situations in life, it’s always easy to blame the difficult circumstances, the bad world, and all the people surrounding us. “How could that ever happen?” “How could they treat me like this?” “I didn’t do anything wrong”, “It’s their fault” or “It’s not my fault.”We all know these statements, and the list goes on and on…

Let’s be honest: Blaming other people, blaming the circumstances, the entire world or both for our experiences, for specific situations we may find ourselves in, doesn’t help anybody. It’s only creating and distributing negative energy. It doesn’t bring us any closer to a solution or a better future state. Blaming shows that we are in a victim mode and that we don’t take responsibility for us, our life and our past choices. But that’s our Responsibility.

We made the decisions in the past that are root causes for our today’s situations.  Even if we made a decision that seems to be wrong from today’s perspective – it was exactly the right one when we made this decision in this specific situation in the past. It was exactly what we wanted at some point. We cannot live our life backwards, but we can change the direction today for the future. We always have choices – and the most important one is the choice to look inwards, to listen to our heart to get a deeper understanding, to learn more about ourselves and about others – before we make our decision, before we move on, in a conscious, responsible way.

Situations, however painful they might be, have always one element in common – our individual and unique perception. Other persons involved may have another perception, that’s their unique view-point. Let’s not lose time and energy in judging other people’s individual perception and criticizing their view points. They are as they are, and nobody sees the colors as you do. But we all see colors. And we all name those colors, but sometimes slightly different. There will always be differences, at least nuances. Accept it and don’t judge other people’s perceptions. It doesn’t help us to get out of a painful situation, it only takes energy we could spend more wisely elsewhere to make a different choice next time. Additionally, judging another person’s individual perspective as wrong takes us also the possibility to remain open-minded and to gain a deeper understanding about their individual view-point.

Let’s be aware that our situations in our lives are the results of our conscious and unconscious choices we made in the past. Even if at some point, our decision was not to decide anything. Then, the decision was made for us, probably not as we expected it to be.

Let’s be aware that we always have choices and that those choices are unlimited. If we perceive them as limited, then we defined some limits, didn’t we? Limits we may perceive are often other people’s values, beliefs and principles how we should live our lives. Let’s be conscious, that this is not necessarily our story. If those values and beliefs don’t serve us anymore, let’s get rid of them. Living a responsible and conscious life requires that we define our values, our core beliefs and our ethical principles in a conscious way.

The past is over and the future didn’t yet begin. Today, you have the choice to change situations or you have the choice to accept them as they are. Today, you can choose to go another way, you can choose to develop new concepts, new life and work situations. Or you will choose a specific current situation again – as it is – and accept it completely.

The more conscious we make choices in our lives, the more conscious  we live our lives. We have the right to choose our way of living, and we respect other people’s right to make their own choices, too.

  • Believe in yourself.
  • Follow your heart.
  • Trust in your courage and strength.
  • Enjoy the freedom of creativity.
  • And Make your choices – built from love.

“We need to teach the next generation of children from Day One that they are responsible for their lives. Mankind’s greatest gift, also its greatest curse, is that we have free choice. We can make our choices built from love or from fear.”
–Elisabeth Kuebler-Ross

 


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