“Do you have a hard time to understand your behaviour in your current or a past relationship?”
“Are you, or the both of you, running into the same relationship patterns over and over again?”
“Do you make concessions you would never make with somebody else?”
“Are you accepting behaviours you would never tolerate with any other person?”
“Do you feel overwhelmed, stuck, and unable to get out of the current situation?”
“Do you feel that your relationship (or a past relationship) became … pointless over time? And do you still feel unable to change the current state?”
“Do you feel that your partner is drawing a lot of energy from you?
If you answered these questions with “no,” you can easily skip this article. If you answered a few or all of these questions with “yes”, the chances are that you are (or were) in a so-called karmic relationship. If so, you might be interested in learning more about it.
This article is based on what I experienced and learned about karmic relationships over many years. And thanks to my spiritual and energetic work over the last couple of years and my amazing teachers, I could see the issue, understand the bigger picture and clear the energetic causes for the higher good of all souls involved. Let’s get started!
Many relationships in our world are karmic. That means that these souls have met before, in previous incarnations. Often in many previous incarnations. Sometimes, they had the same kind of relationship in the past as in this life, such as being lovers, being married or being siblings. And it also happens that some souls experienced different kinds of relationships over many incarnations.
What makes those relationships karmic that both souls have accumulated negative karma over many lifetimes. For themselves and together. Whenever these souls meet again, it’s a bit worse because there is always a bit more of their shared negative karma that is showing up in the current incarnation. In an aggregated form. Another reason is a so-called soul contract. Let’s first get a better understanding of both issues.
Shared negative karma is one of the root causes of karmic relationships
Karma is just another word for one of the universal laws, the law of cause and effect. Whatever choice you make, your choice has a consequence. The choices you make represent your preferences, such as the choice to apply for a particular job, the choice to move to another city or country, or the choice to be a relationship or not. Or much more straightforward: daily choices such as to have tea or coffee, to make this trip or not, or to see a person or not. And of course, your choice to be in this relationship that might cause some of the experiences I have mentioned above. And all the choices you make in any relationship have consequences for both partners. All the time.
Now, what is shared negative karma? It means that both souls made one or several choices usually in previous incarnations that caused negative karma with a specific energetic statement, such as dependency, disempowerment, doubt, trauma, shame, guilt, etc., … you name it. The karma is called shared negative karma because both souls were involved in the specific choice that created this karma. Choices that create shared negative karma are life-changing and traumatic in nature. It’s never about having tea or coffee for breakfast. Instead, it’s about experiencing, for instance, the death of their child, a horrible accident, or being involved in emotionally or physically abusive or even violent situations. And, as we all have free will to do this or that, our choices create our experiences.
Usually, both souls carry negative karma on to another life. If not cleared, the souls are still on the same frequency; they attract the same people, situations and places again. And boom, they meet again and are caught in the same karmic patterns they already experienced for a few lifetimes. But now, there is even more shared negative karma that will come up over the course of the relationship in one way or another.
Soul contracts can also cause karmic relationships
Soul contracts are usually a past life issue, and they can have different aspects, such as healing, protection or so-called soulmate contracts. The latter is what’s relevant for close and intimate relationships. And, be aware, soulmate contracts are not romantic at all, as you will see in a minute.
When these souls met for the first time, they may have closed a soul contract, mutually or one-sided. Initially, soul contracts had a positive intention, such as an expression of love and commitment. However, soul contracts are in fact not such a positive thing. No, they are not. Soul contracts mean that one or both partners provide too much of their vital life force energy for their partner. You could also say, both partner live from the other partner’s vital life force energy which means they draw energy from each other. And that’s not positive. Not at all.
First of all, there is no need to provide too much of your vital life force energy for another being or to draw vital life force energy from another being. But that mechanism is a soul contract’s principle. And that’s exactly the reason why soul contracts become, over time, not a positive thing at all.
Due to this mechanism, soul contracts lead to further separation from the source (the universe, the essence, the infinite, god, etc…. you name it) for both partners. And that’s neither positive nor is it adequate or appropriate because we all have direct access to vital life force energy from source at all times. Not using this direct access, at least to some degree, is what creates further separation from source. And that’s exactly what makes soul contracts not positive at all.
Shared negative karma and a soul contract create miserable and highly challenging experiences
Imagine there is already soul contract in place, and then, the weight of shared negative karma is increasing every time these souls meet again. In parallel, the experiences these souls wanted to make with each other are adding up, too. And, at some point, these souls have experienced what they wanted to experience with each other, and it’s time to move, for the highest good of both souls. That’s when the perception of a “pointless” relationship is part of the observations I listed above. Then, the combination of making “pointless” experiences with each other and still feeling a lot of love for the partner, based on this deep soul connection, makes it very hard often for both, to move on.
And that’s often VERY difficult to understand (believe me, in can take years!), because initially when they met, they had this feeling of already knowing each other very well (which makes sense and is correct). Often, both souls have an in-depth knowledge of each other, and they often ask themselves “where does this come from? How do you know? We only spent a few hours, days, or weeks together.” That’s because these souls met in the past, often already a few times.
Now, how to get out of a karmic relationship? Just breaking up? If it were that simple, I wouldn’t even write about the issue. And you wouldn’t read until here.
First of all, it’s is your choice to stay in any relationship or not to do so. The more often you nodded in agreement to the initial observations at the beginning of this article, the more you are already thinking about this question. Second, there are no mysterious things like destiny or something you have to go through. No, there is no divine intervention. You are in charge. You are the master of your experiences, and it’s your choice.
Now, you could say, just do that. Walk away. Break up with that person. But that’s exactly the problem. That’s just not working very well when it comes to karmic relationships. Even if they tried to break up with each other a few times, they often circle back to each other with good intentions to do things differently. But then, the partners observe themselves repeating the same patterns again, maybe on another level with a different aspect. But at the core, these are the same issues. Or they repeat just the same patterns. Again. And again. Until their shared negative karma is cleared and the soul contract removed. For the highest good of both souls. In love and acceptance.
Unless the energetic cords of your karmic relationship are not cleared, you are still in that relationship. Energetically. With the chances that you repeat the same patterns again. In the next relationship. You get the point…
I’m sure you know people who tell you that they experience the same problems or patterns in any relationship, and still think that it’s the partners’ fault. No, it’s not. It’s just that they attract the same energy over and over again unless they energetically clear the causes. Without clearing the past, your soul cannot close the chapter and move on. So, clearing the
And that requires much more than breaking up with each other. Instead, it requires some energetic work, because all negative karma and also soul contracts and other energetic blockages create “energetic identities” that are physically stored in people ‘s physical body, mentally or emotionally.
Completing a karmic relationship is different from breaking up with a partner. Instead, the process empowers both partners to clear the karmic aspect of their relationship, to regain direct access to their vital life force energy, and to leave the learning experiences intact, in the highest good of both souls.
Once the shared negative karma and the soul contract are cleared, both souls can close the chapter and move on. This process of completing the relationship energetically also allows keeping the learning experience intact. And that’s very important. After all, there were many positive and beautiful moments and there were experiences that led to, sometimes hard, lessons to be learned. After such a completion process, the souls can shift their energy, and usually, they raise their frequency. And that means that they will then attract different people, different places and different situations. That helps them not to get trapped again in the same old karmic relationship. And it offers the opportunity to experience different things these souls want to experience next.
Completing a karmic relationship also works if only one partner, often an ex-partner, is doing this work. Often, that’s the only way to process what happened in a positive way and to move on. In such a situation, this partner who is doing the work will recognise that the other partner literally “disappears” from their radar screen. Although it might feel weird in the beginning, it’s a positive thing for both souls. Even more, it’s actually just a consequence of doing the energetic clearing work, for both souls, although it could feel a bit wistful.
There are different concepts existing how to complete karmic relationships and how to clear their causes. I personally went through the completion process, owned by Toby Alexander, one of my teachers. And I learned later to clear additional energetic causes that still existed, based on Anddrea Hess’ soul realignment teachings.
Completing karmic relationships by clearing their root causes is an extremely powerful way that empowers both souls to acknowledge and honour ALL experiences, the beautiful ones and the learning experiences.
So, to be honest, this is not an easy process to go through. It takes a lot of energy and time. And there might be a few iterations. Don’t get angry with yourself. Instead, welcome the iteration and listen to it and ask yourself “what is it I can learn from this situation right now?” And as in every life area, the patterns repeat themselves until we learn what we have to learn until we change our approach, our attitude, our behaviour, and our responses. With completing karmic relationships, the changes we are making might appear gradually for a long time, but then, all of a sudden, it makes “click,” and the change is fundamental. Then, the completion has been processed successfully. For both souls. In acceptance, love, and gratitude. In the highest good of both souls.
And you know what… you will raise your energy quite fundamentally. You will finally get things done, that didn’t work before, you will eventually finish this or that project you didn’t have enough energy before. And that’s because you have your vital life force energy back, because the separation from source has been ended, and that’s why your access to your intuition is increasing.
And … you will attract different people, different place, different topics and different situations!